Can I ask that my vegetarian partner cook non-veg meals for me?

So here's the situation. She's vegetarian, I'm not. We've been dating for about a year and have butted heads over this twice now. I'm reaching out for advice.



We cook for each other all the time. Respecting her diet I always prepare vegetarian meals, and I always enjoy it when it's her turn. The meals aren't always ideal, as far as my diet goes, but I still dig it. Where there’s friction is that I'm still holding out hope that someday she'd be able to prepare a non vegetarian meal for me. Her stance is she doesn’t ever want have anything to do with meat. I can enjoy it all I want; I just need to handle all the aspects of it. I’m frustrated by the word “ever”.



Long term, we’re married and say I work late so she’s assumed the role of cooking for the both of us. Will the only time I get to enjoy the diet I’ve chosen is when I’ve prepared it myself or when I’m eating out? That’s the day to day, but will I never a have birthday steak dinner prepared at home by my partner? I’m using specific examples to illustrate, but this is a umbrella lifestyle problem.



We’ve talked about switching off days, eating meat while I’m away when I can, and me preparing my parts on the side or in advance. Bottom line is I’m thinking about long term. There are a lot of situations out there. Can I live with the hard line of not buying or preparing meat? What about our potential children’s diets? Am I wrong to expect some form of compromise? I’m worried.



ThanksCan I ask that my vegetarian partner cook non-veg meals for me?
My bf is in much the same situation as you. I've been a vegetarian since I was five years old, and at first it was really hard for me to adjust to the idea of ever cooking meat for him or letting our future spawn eat meat. But I do intend to fix him a steak for his birthday next week (free range, of course, and while wearing rubber gloves). It may seem ridiculous, but for me, and probably for your girlfriend, too, meat just isn't food - it's murder. Most vegetarians see meat as immoral, disgusting, and something that should not be touched under any circumstances; believe it or not, she's taking a big step in compromising as much as she has. A lot of vegetarians are up on a high horse, and she might be insulted if you suggest anything further. My advice: ask for your birthday, or for Christmas. Offer to buy free range, because that really is a lot more acceptable to most of us. And break out some rubber gloves. It seems like something silly, but it makes the idea of touching meat much more tolerable.
I have the same problem, I am a vegan and to meet someone who is not a vegetarian causes so much problems in a relationship...I feel if you love her than you can easily change as most ppl have vegetables with their meal so you can just add what you want with it, but it's difficult for her to eat meat.Can I ask that my vegetarian partner cook non-veg meals for me?
Preparing vegetarian food doesn't go against your ethical beliefs.

Preparing meat goes against hers.



Why the hell are you bothered about a birthday steak? Your life will be ruined if you don't have steak? SERIOUSLY? Perspective, PLEASE.Can I ask that my vegetarian partner cook non-veg meals for me?
you can ask but i doubt she will do it
Asking your partner to prepare a dish with meat would not be respecting her beliefs since she has told you never. No matter how much I loved my partner, I would not prepare meat for them. If they wanted to feast on a cow, they need to go, buy the meat with their own money, prepare it themselves using utensils they have bought for the sole purpose of cooking meat, and clean up any contamination in the kitchen it may have caused.



Sounds radical, but that's how I feel. I highly suggest you do not ask your partner to cook you meals with meat. Cook it yourself or live without it. Or buy it precooked outside of the home.
She has agreed to a compromise: If you cook the meat (or bring it in from outside the house), she will tolerate it in her home. If you were dating a Jewish woman, you wouldn't ask her to prepare pork or shellfish, would you?



You have to decide which is more important: Your relationship with this woman or dating a woman who will cook meat for you. If you can't stand the thought that the woman you love will never grill a steak, then maybe you should end things now.
B ham, I used to eat meat until I received a magazine put out by PETA and saw how they torcher animals like the chickens and pigs for the consumption of humans to eat...it was very cruel and for you to ask your partner to cook you a meal with regards to meat is disrespectful..most men don't look at issues like these like us females...your girlfriend must have a good heart and cares deeply for animals...I think if you saw that magazine you would of probably changed too...good luck
here is the essence of the question:



"but this is a umbrella lifestyle problem"



It is a total umbrella problem. about her not being flexible. First of all, she will not be cooking meals for you. Or doing any of that stuff. She aint no June Cleaver. So, there it is. She will probably want to raise your kids vegan too.
I think it is unreasonable to ask your partner to cook meat for you. She has decided, for whatever reasons, to not eat it. Why would you want to force her to do something you know she hates? Do you love her, or meat? You are lucky she is making dinner for you period. If you work late, be thankful there is dinner (veg or not) ready at home. If you really feel like you need meat at that meal, why not have some chicken or fish already cooked and just add it to it? That would be reasonable to me. There are plenty of really good, filling veg meals out there. As for your birthday, just go out for that steak. She probably won't cook it the best anyways since she is not eating it! LOL. You are very considerate for making veg meals, but it is easier to go without something that add in something that you hate. I feel for you, but I don't think you are going to win her over by trying to make her cook meat. She is never going to have that lovey feeling for you while she is cooking that. Is it really worth it? As far as your kids, they will decide what they want to eat. My son, who is 4 is a vegetarian. He does not eat meat at all. So, we make him veg food and he loves it! It's not hard to add in chicken or whatever. I would say think about your gf first and then decide how important food is to you... good luck.
She's already compromising by tolerating meat in the house, and tolerating you cooking it in the kitchen. It's normal and reasonable for her to not want to prepare meat for you. It will probably be the same with the children. Meat will come from meals purchased outside the home, or prepared by you.



So, it's your decision whether you want to stay. No relationship is perfect. If you decide the good outweighs the imperfections, agree to accept her restrictions about cooking meat and let it go.